tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post1151818390161374957..comments2023-08-25T06:12:51.221-04:00Comments on Big City Dad: I'm So Angry I Could PukeBig City Dadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10026342162175331927noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-14748886229903503032010-03-23T15:11:02.795-04:002010-03-23T15:11:02.795-04:00Gosh I feel so bad for you...Ummm I need to visit ...Gosh I feel so bad for you...Ummm I need to visit NYC...I don't care how much money you have...and she would be blessed to go to a private school all together...I'm so not liking the Ex..Just telling it like it ishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04090846611105025162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-59895893055524760122010-03-17T20:53:16.938-04:002010-03-17T20:53:16.938-04:00That sucks if she's making a ton more money an...That sucks if she's making a ton more money and didn't say a word. My ex and I stay as far away from financial fights as possible. We do get into problems sometimes when she makes decisions without consulting me, but those have really gotten few and far between. Ten years of divorce will do that. Time heals.<br /><br />Hope things go better for you soon.dadshousehttp://dadshouseblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-70203826392542157802010-03-15T23:49:35.203-04:002010-03-15T23:49:35.203-04:00Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to hear all of this....Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to hear all of this. Our ex's are definitely related.<br /><br />My 2 cents: Don't commit to a school you cannot afford - no judge will make you do it and you can tell her that. Plus yanking your daughter out in a year will be bad for her - an abrupt change. Unless...your ex agrees to take over all school payments, in writing. I believe you ask for a full financial statement from her as part of the renegotiation of child support.<br /><br />Regular negotiation tactics don't work on this kind of personality. Making boundaries black and white is the only thing that has come close to working for me - but as you know, nothing ever feels like a victory with this stuff. When you are the reasonable one who truly cares about your child, mustering up the energy to deal with the ex's is exhausting.<br /><br />To note, a single dad pal of mine who has a 21 year old and 15 year old now sees something wonderful - both girls see how their mom has used child support and alimony to try to cripple him; both see how generous he's been; both are disgusted by their mom. So - I bet your daughter will know who the real parent is one day.<br /><br />Good luck - I wish you well- <br />SwatiThe Single Mothers Chronicleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03741991951693505652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-34617759144541764742010-03-13T19:21:46.416-05:002010-03-13T19:21:46.416-05:00Ugh. Sorry that you're going through this righ...Ugh. Sorry that you're going through this right now. I've got nothing useful to offer you at the moment, just lots of positive vibes. *hugs*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-39202290450839721602010-03-12T17:36:34.612-05:002010-03-12T17:36:34.612-05:00Wow. Hate that you're having to deal with all ...Wow. Hate that you're having to deal with all this. No advice, but good luck, I hope it works out.jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16397705917751266966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-33430760064461569612010-03-12T16:37:36.953-05:002010-03-12T16:37:36.953-05:00Having been on the other side of this coin for man...Having been on the other side of this coin for many years, and unable to fight successfully - I say fight now. While you can, but smartly.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-30782587981868054072010-03-12T11:02:01.173-05:002010-03-12T11:02:01.173-05:00You definitely need to go back to court and get st...You definitely need to go back to court and get stuff changed quickly. Wishing you luck with it all!Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06587186690785139860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-1187147300640410672010-03-12T09:30:57.840-05:002010-03-12T09:30:57.840-05:00WOW. I am not sure what to say bro, other than - c...WOW. I am not sure what to say bro, other than - coffee?THAT guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16248698768378675080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-50745841111516750642010-03-12T00:33:39.011-05:002010-03-12T00:33:39.011-05:00I am sending you BIG hugs and prayers! What a frus...I am sending you BIG hugs and prayers! What a frusterating situation! I hope things go well, and that you two can get things figured out. I really hope that she can be honest with you. It isn't fair to you or M. She is just causing you to be hostile towards her. No amount of money is worth the peace between you. Hopefuly she'll figure that out! <br /><br />Praying for you!Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05214217695583490523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-47431122809522530762010-03-11T20:45:28.097-05:002010-03-11T20:45:28.097-05:00Good luck, I feel so bad for you. You don't de...Good luck, I feel so bad for you. You don't deserve this.Senoritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13075972193214414769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-86401418875818834102010-03-11T20:10:27.677-05:002010-03-11T20:10:27.677-05:00Some lotion and a sock? Why do you need a sock? So...Some lotion and a sock? Why do you need a sock? Sorry to digress. I wish you all the calm and composure that you can handle. Best, Pippixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18444876073017398971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-28062560936328922912010-03-11T19:32:27.200-05:002010-03-11T19:32:27.200-05:00I feel for you, I really do. I have also had my e...I feel for you, I really do. I have also had my ex gain at my expense - significantly. And he does it with no regard for the kids. <br /><br />Sorry to hear you are dealing with this.MindyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01103345017455083144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-53064248460427786312010-03-11T17:15:38.252-05:002010-03-11T17:15:38.252-05:00I don't understand how a person can be so comf...I don't understand how a person can be so comfortable with lying and ripping people off. It is cases like this that make me HOPE TO GOD that karma is real. I know you have the school to decide on soon but would it be possible to request a court date to re-negotiate your support AND talk about expenses for school? If it IS possible, I would call the Catholic school and ask them for a short statement about trying to get ahold of Ex. I would then ask that Ex be ordered to provide salary information and THEN I would ask that Ex be responsible to pay for M's school costs. Actually, I would ask that Ex be ordered to pay YOU support. This is so sad, maddening, and disgusting. You have every right to be VERY irate but please do try to be calm, it seems like the calmer someone is, the better things turn out in the end for them. It is the people that lose their heads that end up with the short end of the stick. I would really be pushing for a court date if possible. YUCK!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12302767262148384106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-80169712708911480882010-03-11T16:53:57.336-05:002010-03-11T16:53:57.336-05:00That's just bizarre. Why are you paying suppor...That's just bizarre. Why are you paying support at all? As far as I know in Ontario (Canada), if the child is with the 'other' parent at least 40% of the time, no support is paid at all. Why are you in the position of having to support your ex's lifestyle if she doesn't have M any more than you do. Hell...you should be able to get support from her!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-66557470246175901122010-03-11T15:59:32.956-05:002010-03-11T15:59:32.956-05:00Wow, why do you guys live there if it costs so muc...Wow, why do you guys live there if it costs so much? Damn. And is it preschool for your daughter? Even $6000 is off the charts high by MA standards. Maybe you guys should move to Boston.Mass Hole Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18394886442191654012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-11125232773167795952010-03-11T15:35:47.785-05:002010-03-11T15:35:47.785-05:00wow... that is unbelievable...the word GREEDY come...wow... that is unbelievable...the word GREEDY comes to mind.. remind her that since your daughter is with you half of the time... while she is making a comfortable life for her daughter when she is with her... she is taking away from the other half of her life during the time she lives with you... I honestly couldn't even imagine doing that to the DONKEY!!! There has to be a way to resovle this..I would imagine that there is no way she would be able to hide her income when you go to re negotiate payments... greedy greedy greedy woman! I hope there is some resolve in your meeting... thinking calm composed thoughts for you...LMMMBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11106826062975001409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7635390275830964616.post-70255561186497452882010-03-11T15:17:15.564-05:002010-03-11T15:17:15.564-05:00Man, I am so happy that I am not in your shoes, ma...Man, I am so happy that I am not in your shoes, man I would be in jail by now. Just breathe. I can't tell you how to handle this stuff since I have nevver been through it, but to relieve the anger, you could do any number of things.<br />1. Make mad crazy love to the hot girlfriend<br />2. Batting cage<br />3. Get some lotion and a sock<br />4. Gym<br />5. Just realize that you are a better person than she is and later in life it will all come back around.Scott S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01168498409344785544noreply@blogger.com