You know, not much makes me uncomfortable when it comes to discussing the human condition. I grew up in a somewhat conservative Catholic home where things like sex just weren't discussed out in the open. My parents did talk to us about it, but it was never in the forefront and was one of those things that was to be discussed "not around other people." That's ok. Given how, where, and when they grew up, I get it and it was totally fine.
As I've gotten older and exposed to more life, my views have gotten more liberal, especially when it comes to sex. Not that I think a person shouldn't respect themselves and others in their sexual behaviors, but just in that sexual discussions and sexual preferences are nothing to be ashamed of. I fully expect to have these discussions with my daughter when she's older and actually look forward to it.
I just didn't expect to have one this weekend...
Miss M is a little over three. She's in the wonderful phase of physical self discovery. She's fully potty trained but still needs a little help wiping, pulling up her pants, etc, so when she goes potty, I usually stand in the doorway in case she needs me. She's very independent, so usually it's "Daddy, you stay there!" while she goes.
Last night as she was doing her last potty before she went to bed, she decided to have a closer look...down there. Totally cool, she does that occasionally, but this time, she REALLY went for it. Pulling both sides of her little self apart, she bent over to have a close look. Even I had a tough time not pulling an uncomfortable face!
After a short inspection of the "magic girl spot" she looked up at me and asked, "Daddy, what's that?"
Running through possibilities of what to call it (thinking the clinical name just wasn't appropriate for right now), I opted for "Well, baby, those are your special girlie parts."
"Special girlie parts?" she said inquisitively, tilting her head to the side while still exposing herself in all her glory.
"You want to touch it Daddy?"
Ok, THAT one I wasn't expecting. Even Daddy is uncomfortable now. Composing myself I say,
"No thank you honey. That's yours. No one else should touch it but you."
"Ok Daddy. I like to play with it." OH MY GOD!
Daddy takes a deep breath and says,
"Ok baby. It's yours to play with. Just make sure when you do, you're by yourself, ok?"
And just like that, we've had our first sex talk. Is it SUPPOSED to happen this early? Wow...