Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Yes, I'm Alive


Hey kids. Long time no talk. Between all that I had going on the last few weeks with finding Miss M a school, the Ex's financial hi jinx, re-establishing things with Hot Girl (that's going exceptionally well), and my job, I've been either too tired, too busy, or just too plain lazy to write. So, in honor of "I'm Alive," a picture of Baby Alive. Nothing like a doll that sh*ts all over your house. Who thinks of stuff like that?

Anyhow, here's the latest:

We've enrolled Miss M in school. One of the more expensive ones unfortunately, but for what she needs (strong language focus), the proximity to my apartment (literally, a 300 yard walk), and the fact that Ex agreed to foot half the bill, it was the best decision given the options that were available to us. What tipped it over the edge for me was that Ex also agreed to pay her own nanny care going forward. Saves me a TON of money and given that she offered it, I have to say I'm appreciative.

I'm not sure if Ex offered this because she knows I'm on to her and her finances or just to be nice, but given that it's a big step in the right direction, I figured I'd not look a gift horse in the mouth. Baby steps, right? We sat in front of the child therapist and discussed all the school options, including costs, so this gave me an opportunity to lay out my whole financial picture. I decided not to get into "accusing" Ex of anything and to just focus on my side of the street. Seems she heard me and is giving me breaks here and there. Yup, guess there's a person in there somewhere.

Hot Girl and I have also been getting on extremely well. After my post The Dilemma a few weeks ago, I decided to take a brutally honest path and just tell her EVERYTHING I was thinking. Have to say, she took it like a trooper and what transpired was a couple weeks of very long talks. The result though: we both feel like the other is the best friend and our communication is more open than ever. Honestly, I've never had this in a relationship before. Ex and I were never best friends. Huge step for both HG and me. While we have some differences, we have mostly the same values when it comes to family and kids, we're willing to sacrifice personal things for those values, we laugh a lot, and the sex is still phenomenal. Can't ask for much more than that, right?

So, after more discussions with her, my parents, my friends, and my shrink, I decided it was time...to reintroduce M to Hot Girl this past weekend. We did it at the playground with tons of other kids and parents around just to keep it low key. They got along great (as expected) and after I said, "M, we have to go upstairs and get dinner" she looked at Hot Girl and said "You want come to my house for dinner?" How could we refuse that? The next morning, M woke up, came into my room and said "Daddy, [Hot Girl] go to zoo with us today?" Can't say no again.

So, with that, we've decided it's also time to introduce HG to Ex. One of the things we agreed to in child therapy was that when the relationship got serious enough that the new boyfriend/girlfriend would be spending significant time with M, we'd arrange a meeting. Just to keep it neutral, I requested we do it at the therapist's office, so tomorrow at 1 PM is the big intro! I'm a little nervous as Ex has a propensity for saying inappropriate things at just the right moment and for being confrontational. HG and I have decided that if this occurs, she'll just defer to me and I'll take care of it. Seem the best way to handle things, right?

So, overall things are pretty good. Have a little financial relief which was drastically needed, M has a new school, and HG is in the picture for the foreseeable future. Next up...I need to get to the gym. Daddy is getting a bit pudgy. One thing at a time, right?

Talk soon everyone!

18 comments:

Vic said...

Well this is bizarre. I call my little one Miss H and my eldest M. I'm not afraid of giving their names to stalkers but too lazy to write their full names...lol. Once in a while. Anywho, Glad you found a school-I can so relate. It's tough finding one your comfortable with and if you have to pay to have them safe then so be it. Glad she's forking half the bill! And good news when the little one likes the Hottie;) Nice to know ur alive and well!

MommyLovesStilettos said...

I'm glad to hear things are going well!

T said...

I love it! See?!? Everything worked out just fine. :) :)

Hooray!

And on a side note, this sounds much like my relationship with Rascal as compared to his relationship with his ex. I'm trying to like her but... yeah, I'll just defer to him. Heh.

Danielle said...

Yay! It sounds like things are on a good track right now. Hope they stay that way for you!

Brittany said...

So glad things are going well for you! Yay for you and HG! :) So glad that M likes her as well!

Keep us posted! We've missed you!

KiddosDad said...

Good News! I'm right there with you with the gym, summer is right around the corner and as another awesome single dad I have to look good on my boat this lake season!

LittleMama714 said...

so happy for you!!!

P.S - At some point, you have to try to get Miss M to Baby Loves Disco. Would be a great thing to do with Miss M and HG. They do them monthly in Manhattan now!!! We haven't been able to make the last couple and they sell out so fast now. I'm crossing my fingers that over the summer we'll be able to get to one.

Senorita said...

Wow, I am glad things are going in the right direction for you. I am happy for you ! Especiall that you and Hot Girl are progressing.

However, I might suggest putting off introducing HG to the ex, especially since it seems like things have just seemed to get better and the ex just started becoming nicer.

Introducing the Ex to HG may set the bitch in her off again little and then before you know it, she may get a little bitchier instead of nicer.

Just my .02 and I hope that this streak of good fortune lasts a very long time.

Sarah said...

sounds GREAT! what a wonderful way for everything to work out. i am curious to see how the meeting goes :) it will probably go better than anyone thinks.

The Single Mothers Chronicles said...

I'm so glad to hear how well things are working out for you! Really awesome!!
Swati

Tom Wall said...

glad to see it all worked out.

Amy said...

your blog is great--i'm also a single parent in the city, with all that entails. great to hear about this success story...it gives me hope!

dj kosmotronix said...

Hey Bro,

I'm glad things are going well for you, life gets complicated.

Blessings,
-ML

MindyMom said...

Great news! All around. :)

jenn said...

Sounds like things are falling into place. Good for you!

BigLittleWolf said...

A lot of great updates here. Fabulous!

Momma Sunshine said...

WOW! Sounds like you've really got some exciting things going on right now. That's great!! Look forward to hearing how "The Big Meet" with HG and the Ex goes.... :-)

qtmama said...

Mmmm Hmmm ... honesty. It's a good thing. :)

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